“I’m not interesting”
You are a much more interesting person than you might think. The brain is working against yourself.
Advice: Becom a more active listener. Pick up on minor details in listening to another persons story. You are now seen a little more kindhearted.
You might feel uncomfortable to talk about things that you care about.
You might get an akward response. That’s perfectly normal. Everyone has caused an akward silence. Their are part of the human experience. Allow yourself to go through life not worrying what other people think about you.
Noone thinks about you as much as you are catastrophising in your head. They most likely have already forgotten about it. That’s part of life. If you can own that fact, the more confident you get.
Confidence attracts confidence. Allow yourself to be yourself.
Example 1: Talk about being into video games like warhammer 40k. People will get to know you as the warhammer guy. That’s not bad.
Be an active listener. If somebody talks about their nerdy stuff, apply it onto other conversations.
You are not a singular entity amongst a see of robots. No man is an island. We form our world view from the people around you. You become more interesting by consuming the standpoints and stories of people around you, as you are a product of your environment.
You might not want to make yourself vulnerable by telling people about what you care about. But normally people don’t even care. Noone cares what you geek about.
Open your box of your own personality. Allow others in. You then realize that you are more interesting. Be yourself and eventually people will start following.
Expose to the world who you are and the world will accept you.
Comments
- Read: How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes
- We suffer more inside our own mind than outside of it
- After years of trying to hide my real personality, I ended up realizing that if I was the type of person that tries to camouflage their true selves to avoid being judged, I’d end up having fake relationships with people who are not my vibe, thus keeping myself from opening up and engaging with people who I’m really willing to spend my time with, kinda like a toxic loop. Thank you so much for these reflections random guy, cause I may not know you, but I can see you are an interesting and sensible person.
- All of the negative things that people have said to me in my life ALL PUT TOGETHER doesn’t compare with the negativity I can give myself from five minutes with my own thoughts
- People often forget what you’ve said, but they remember how you made them feel
- The active listening thing is severely overlooked in a lot of “how to build confidence” type things – no one’s personality or self exists in a vacuum
- My cousin once told me to take myself less seriously, which at first i found irritating but it ended up sticking with me
- “I may be cringe, but you’re mean, and that’s worse.”
- I’m a composer, visual artist, game developer, and writer, all of which encompass my career. My day job is frying chicken at a deli. Amongst the composers, I’m not the best composer but I may be the best at frying chicken. Amongst the deli workers, I’m not the best at frying chicken but I may be the best composer. Yet in each arena, I have plenty to learn from others.
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